failing my way to success

Yesterday, I received notification that the proposal for my book had been rejected. Nope. Not gonna happen. Not now. Not by that publisher.

I had inquired earlier in the day, dredging up my courage to ask, even if the news was not good news. The response came:

I checked with the editor and he was finishing up the process of reviewing your manuscript.  I have attached the letter that he was going to mail to you today. I wish you the very best of luck in finding a publisher for your book.

While I would have done cartwheels and somersaults, had my proposal been accepted, I read this news without surprise. The actual editor’s letter shed light on other books which are similar in an over-crowded market. In other words, I was writing what had already been well-covered; they can only invest time and money in projects that bring new ideas. That makes sense. It’s what I’ve done all  my writing life, though. Write what I need to write, albeit not necessarily saying something new. The editor gave me credit for presenting it in a new way. But a publisher cannot invest in old. He’s looking for new.

Pouring old wine into new wine skins, just doesn’t bode well for sales.

Still, a rejection hurts. Hurt is funny. It’s something very difficult to describe but quite easy to remember, if you’ve been hurt before. And this “no” feels very familiar. It feels like when my obstetrician said, “It’s another girl.”

I already had two daughters. I guess I must have been secretly hoping for a boy, but that would not be politically correct or something anyone should admit, so I hadn’t admitted it to myself. I smiled and nodded. And then went to the mall.

I’m not much of a shopper really, but I walked and walked. Thought about my mother who done this right, a boy and a girl. Salt and pepper shakers, a complete set. I was surprised at the loss I felt. Of the son I would never have. This, you see, would be our last child. It was time. My husband and I had decided this. Would I always feel incomplete?

No one could know (though now, you reading this do know) that I had hoped for a boy. In fact, I didn’t even know it, until it wasn’t, and then I did. And as I walked, an amazing thing happened. I healed. really, in the scheme of the universe this was an exceedingly quick turn around! I said goodbye to what wouldn’t be and welcomed in the little girl who would be.

And, in December of the coming year, I got to meet her. She was gorgeous and precious and blond and beautiful.

I never thought again of the little boy who wasn’t. Until yesterday. When I was rejected. Until I accepted the news that what I had hoped for would not come to pass. But look, God seemed to say, we are doing something new!

Isn’t it amazing that God can prepare us for “bad news” so far in advance. Even allowing us to recall the moment and the hurt, how it felt and how we dealt with it. And then, let it founder all these years (16 to be exact) in order to resurface at the opportune time.

I know this feeling. It is not death. It is life. Life within me, meant to live and breathe and find its way in the world. As this book will. In its own time. In its own way.

God is so very, very gracious.

He even included His signature. The editor’s letter was penned for the very day I inquired. What are the chances? Then the man who really did write the book on this accepted my linked in inquiry immediately. Then, this morning a dear friend of many, many years ago tapped me to connect with him on linked in. His last name: Christ.

How obvious can God be? He has promised:

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. ~ Jeremiah 29:11

A future we can’t write but we can count on to be better than we ever imagined. Prosperous doesn’t mean we get what we want every time. That’s greedy. Prospering us just means that we come out of each hardship better equipped for the work that lay ahead.

Thank you, Lord, for your providence. I feel very, very blessed today. I have never felt quite so successful. In loss there is, indeed, great gain. In death, there is life. That’s really hard to believe, but today I understand it as completely as I ever have. Your grace is surely sufficient.

About wlebolt

Life comes at you fast. I like to catch it and toss it back. Or toss it up to see where it lands. I do my best thinking when I'm moving. And my best writing when I am tapping my foot to a beat no one else hears. Kinesthetic to the core.

Posted on October 16, 2013, in Deeper Sensation, Life, Mind and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. Wendy — It is a tough thing, by its very name…rejection.  That you received a letter is outstanding, though.  Most publishers just do not respond at all.  I am thinking about all those fine books that were rejected by numerous publishers (Julia Child’s cookbook is one of many.  Elmore Leonard was rejected for decades until he was finally in his 60s.)  You have given your vision a voice and I am confident it will find a venue to be heard.  I would love to see your manuscript, by the way.  I am proud of you! — Judy (one of your biggest fans) 

    • Thanks, Judy. You, of course, have a unique perspective on this, having written, illustrated and published so many of your own works. I have a lot to learn here. And I’d be happy to share the manuscript with you 🙂 The publisher only saw a proposal. They did not see the application of video to support the tool. But then, they are in the printed book business. I am in the movement business.

  2. You could always srlf-publish or publish an e-book, couldn’t you? I would buy it. Your writing is Spirit-filled.

  3. Oh hiddin, you are making me cry 🙂 Yes, this manuscript was intended as an e-book but I saw this possibility and thought I’d give it a shot. It is my “alter-ego” writing though 🙂 My science and sports side. Perhaps it is Spirit-filled, too. If so, then it will surely find a way into the hands of those who could most use it. I hope so.

    In the meantime, I do have a friend (who commented above) who has even hinted she might print a collection of KC posts once I reached enough for a one-a-day read. She keeps me going. As God does. I am so grateful to meet Him here, among friends, in the words and thoughts and insights 🙂

  4. Recently I realized that when i came home to Ron doing his own vasectomy( because he didn’t want to go to vasectomy counseling after our scare with Alissa) that God didn’t say no to me having more children . He said Not now–for He knew the plans he had for me.:)
    I am so very blessed. Waiting 20 years for my last child- and in the mean time pouring my love for children into the children of others’- made me appreciate love so much more. My love for her, her love for me, and God’s enormous love for us both. I can never be thankful enough. Trust in His love and timing and that He will truly take your writing to the people who need to read your words. Keep doing what you do!

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